GATHER IN CIRCLE
We are the Alchemists. A community of men that are committed to being more open, conscious and connected.
To connect with other men and with our inner selves. To share what is hardest to share. To let go of the burdens we’ve had to carry. To learn new ways of relating to the world around us. To develop communication skills and emotional awareness. To be truly seen, heard, and understood.
When a man is surrounded by men he can trust, he starts showing up in life such that cannot go unnoticed.
We want more men to show up in life like this. We want men to stop suffering in silence. We want women to feel safe. We want the next generation to be unburdened by the trauma passed down from prior generations. We want Men to lead more. We want to support Men to do so.
A conscious men's group
We are the Alchemists. A community of men that are committed to being more open, conscious and connected.
To connect with other men and with our inner selves. To share what is hardest to share. To let go of the burdens we’ve had to carry. To learn new ways of relating to the world around us. To develop communication skills and emotional awareness. To be truly seen, heard, and understood.
When a man is surrounded by men he can trust, he starts showing up in life such that cannot go unnoticed.
We want more men to show up in life like this. We want men to stop suffering in silence. We want women to feel safe. We want the next generation to be unburdened by the trauma passed down from prior generations. We want Men to lead more. We want to support Men to do so.
BRINGING FIRE
What does it mean to truly be in brotherhood.
To truly be in brotherhood is to be listened to, supported, and validated in your experiences AND to be held accountable for your actions. This is the loving Fire our conscious men’s group.
We are not an Echo Chamber, that just validates poor behaviour and attitudes. We support through challenging times AND we celebrate the wins and good times. We will also say what is hard, to call a man UP into his best self.
There is always permission to get messy. When the Ego is involved/ challenged, we have come to expect messy.
But we learn from mistakes, sitting in compassion that this way of relating will be very new to many AND as we start making changes in our lives, the people around us might not understand or support the changes we are making.
That is the brotherhood we are here for. That is the brotherhood we have created.
What does it mean to truly be in brotherhood.
To truly be in brotherhood is to be listened to, supported, and validated in your experiences AND to be held accountable for your actions. This is the loving Fire our conscious men’s group.
We are not an Echo Chamber, that just validates poor behaviour and attitudes. We support through challenging times AND we celebrate the wins and good times. We will also say what is hard, to call a man UP into his best self.
There is always permission to get messy. When the Ego is involved/ challenged, we have come to expect messy.
But we learn from mistakes, sitting in compassion that this way of relating will be very new to many AND as we start making changes in our lives, the people around us might not understand or support the changes we are making.
That is the brotherhood we are here for. That is the brotherhood we have created.
“Coming face to face with (and to feel into) my own sense of power, without needing to put others at risk, has been the single most life-changing experience in being part of this brotherhood.”
— N
“Some days, I hate the accountability, other days even more so. But deep down I know and trust that the group has my back in becoming the best version of me possible, and that has been a life-changing experience.”
— D
“Many have referenced my King energy since being in this group and I can see why, I’m showing up with such a different energy. I have found my voice, confidence, a new relationship with integrity and a work-life balance to boot.”
— T
“At any time I can reach out to these men when I’m in need to let my mind explode and there is always a man ready to step up and either simply listen, provide advise or challenge my blind spots and own my actions.”
— J
“This is a place where open, honest, and direct communication is practiced. A place where we break down the stigma of mens mental health. I’m forever grateful to be a part of something that very few have the opportunity to do.”
— H
“I was really struggling after suffering a mental breakdown, this group gave me the structure, support, and accountability to not only move forward with life, but equally the self-confidence to re-engage in with professional guidance.”
— P
“I am so fortunate to have these men listen to my stories, hold space for me and let me learn from where my blind spots are. They’re there for the wins and let me learn from my mistakes. I can’t wait to see how much I can grow in the future.”
— J
FAQ
Frequently AskedQuestions
To join is quite simple. You connect, commit yourself to the group rules and pay your dues.
Once that’s all taken care of you’ll then be welcomed to the very next Monday night meeting, be introduced and the rest will be history.
First and foremost, the rules of group are paramount. This is what you will need to commit to and agree to.
Confidentiality
What is shared in group stays in group, especially other mens shares. A man can talk about his own processing of course – that is his. However nothing is ever to be shared that is not directly his.
No Substances
What you do in your own time is up to you, however, when it comes to meeting, a clear mind is the expectation. No alcohol or substances are to be used prior to group, once it is all said and done (until the following week) do what you want.
Show Up
Your attendance is crucial, not only for yourself but for the other men. Consistency builds trust, and only in trust can the depths of ones psyche be explored. You don’t have to be “on your game” at every meeting, the expectation is you show up to meeting and own what you are feeling.
This commitment of showing up is especially important for the first 3 months. This is why when you commit to this group, you commit yourself to a minimum of 3 months. We have this commitment because of the level of safety it creates. Men will not share hard things when randoms are coming and going as they please.
Of course, life does happen, sometimes out of our control so there are only 3 reasons why a man can miss a meeting.
1. Significant ill health,
2. Family Emergency, or
3. A Pre-existing commitment such as a holiday or work trip (however more than 2 meetings should not be missed in a month).
How you show up to meetings will start to pave the way you show up in Life. If the men in group can start to trust you, so can your community.
Each meeting starts at 6:30pm and follows a schedule and is upheld to the best possible standard.
We start each meeting with some grounding practices (generally breathwork + Push-ups) then we go straight into 2-minute check-ins – this gives each man a voice about how he is at that meeting and if anything showed up for him in the week that was (no feedback or commentary in this segment)
Next, once everyone has checked in, Open Shares allows a Man to claim space and dive deeper into things he wishes to have witnessed or get feedback on.
Once we get to about a halfway point of the night we get moving (Men need movement!!). This is mostly some push ups, squats and planks, however some heavier shares require more energy to be moved, so we do that – as a group!
Next up we head into accountability check-ins, this is where we explore whether each man is upholding himself to his word on what he said he would achieve or work on.
And finally, we end the night with some process work, which ranges from Shadow Work, Light Work, Meditations, Communication development, or deepening the connection of the group.
Before you know it, it’s 9:30pm and we say our goodbyes for the week.
Payment is just another way of showing your level of commitment, it provides some “skin in the game” and accountability. Very few people truly respect or commit themselves to something that is free.
Mostly to the facilitator, to honour their time and leadership in the group. A portion of the fees also goes to the upkeep and growth of the movement (eg this very website)